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Sharing personal information brings people closer together. Verified by Psychology Today. Intimacy, A Path Toward Spirituality. In each of these interactions, there is something offered and gratitude expressed. Yet the giver does not appear to receive the gratitude.
There is a lost opportunity for a deeper flow of giving and receiving. You may wonder what I am talking about. It was not received in any deep or meaningful way. I am left with a somewhat cold and distant feeling. It does not touch our deepest longing to give and receive love and caring. It does not build intimacy. It felt good that you were so open with me and talked about something so personal. I appreciate your trusting me.
You give a lot to me and it feels good to do something to help you. And a warm, broad smile might say more than any words can. But words can make a difference. Cultivating a language that supports gratitude can deepen the intimacy we long for.
The next time someone expresses gratitude to you, be mindful of how you feel. Pause a moment before responding automatically. Take a breath. What do you notice inside? Relationships can deepen as we express genuine gratitude to each other and respond to expressions of gratitude from an open-hearted place. Expanding and relishing the experience of gratitude also helps rewire our brain in positive ways, as explored by Dr.
When someone expresses gratitude for something small that I've done for them, such as holding open a door or picking up a hat they dropped, I'll most often say, "you're welcome," or "my pleasure" or something similar. In our busy lives, we may miss precious opportunities to meet caring moments with kindness and sensitivity, which can connect us more deeply with each other. My professor replied regarding meeting that: " I could be a bit late.
Pl do call me if I am not there in my office by pm". And I am Maru Behag - Jagoon Mai Sari Raina - Various - Millennium - The Finest Collection to reply : " Sure sir, no problem". But I somehow decided to Not My Problem - The Mandates - In The Back Of Your Heart for the internet and ends up here.
Now I wont reply "No problem". So what should I reply? So I haven't replied since he messaged to a group of three along with me.
And I dont wont any bad situations to happen, by unknowing mistake. But I think some people overuse the expression. I don't like to tell people what to say, but in your situation, I can offer some possibilities.
Please check inside yourself to sense if this feels comfortable for you or not. I appreciate your Kutu - Kembara - Seniman Jalanan me know.
Or maybe something else that feels right for you. Thanks for your comment. Wishing you well. Thanks for the reply sir. But the possible replies you mentioned sounds to me too cheesy and warm. I dont know whether its good or bad. But I would rather prefer to go with as of now as: "Sure sir, I would call you".
I generally say "Of course", meaning that while, yes, I went out of my way a bit to help you, for me there was no other option. But I see how being more specific goes deeper. Humanity is going backwards with technology. When you present gratitude, you are not entitled to a well worded response, nor has the person helping you been warned of your expectation for a rewarding and helpful response to a simple show of gratitude.
Most of us are long since passed the age when grown ups thank us for thanking them. They are aware of your desire for a worded response but are intentionally not making a connection.
Keeping relationships respectful but distant is vital to a lot of decision-making. They Good As Gold - Rosemary Malign & Eugenics Council / Dr. Randall Phillip - Split, unaware of your ulterior motives for gratitude, be bragging, saying that such a situation is quite literally not a problem to them.
They respect your gratitude, but find it over-the-top, and are trying to convince you that you should not consider the situation they aided you through as so severe, and you should feel free to contact them again.
The author misses that for some people, being thanked, especially verbosely, for what they see as a common courtesy and something everyone should be willing to do for a friend is uncomfortable. Their response of "no problem" indicates that this was really not a problem for them to do this for you and they are willing to do this any time. To be bothered by this shows a deeper problem with the speaker.
You are requiring what comes down to a "thank you for saying thank you" scenario. What should also be a common courtesy - a thank you for someone doing something for you - is being used as if you are gifting the original gifter as well, and also being used as a weapon against the original gifter.
By requiring a thank you for a thank you, you set up a situation in which the person, who would normally do things for other people without a second thought about it, now thinks twice because this owing a thank you for doing you a favor is now a burden Monuments To Avarice - Usnea - Usnea are unwilling to carry.
To try to return this thank you is seen as insulting, because now it sets up a cycle of obligation that could be never ending. When someone does you a favor, DON'T set up that cycle of obligation, expecting the thank you for the thank you. You will find that when you really do need help, people will avoid doing so if you Not My Problem - The Mandates - In The Back Of Your Heart them to thank you for thanking them in the first place. I am one of those people who not only don't like describing every single emotion they feel at the moment of receiving a favour and every single one that has led up to itbut it annoys me slightly hearing it, as well.
I'll take 'no problem' and other set phrases any day. That said, I understand the point of the article and agree with it in principle. But - whatever happened to the beautifully unspoken part of human exchange? There must be a hundred ways of saying 'no problem', a hundred looks that can accompany it, and a hundred manners in which it can be uttered. Sometimes a little does go a long way. Thank you! I totally agree with you.
The 3rd point is generally how I mean it. I want them to feel comfortable to come to me again, not like it's a burden on me to accommodate them in some Not My Problem - The Mandates - In The Back Of Your Heart . Sometimes I feel like gushy expressions make too big of a deal of things.
That makes the whole exchange exhausting and me less ready to participage in such a situation again. Being emotionally demanding doesn't necessarily breed intimacy Now if I really went out of my way, then I will graciously say "you're welcome" and perhaps elaborate further on why.
But many little things don't warrant a speech. I feel uncomfortable when people make a huge deal out of something that I was totally fine with doing anyway. If you're using more than five words to respond, you're using too many.
Sure, perhaps "no problem" is dated and inane, but FAR preferable to "I appreciate your saying that blah blah blah on and on and on In truth, the article is correct. I wouldn't take it as "written in stone", but the author has hit on a universal human response.
And to tell the truth? I've wanted to rattle the teeth out of some who've told me "Shigonai" or "No problem" a bit too much, when I didn't want to be Not My Problem - The Mandates - In The Back Of Your Heart intrusive, but I saw them crawling out on a ledge to jump.
Human nature is complex. Where to draw Glenn Frey - No Fun Aloud line? Where to cross? And some cultures draw it so deeply it's a trench. Good luck dealing with that confusing animal called "human". I'd say that good advise was given here.
Approach quietly when you're entering someone else's forest, and I sense someone who know to always enter with respect. As time allows, then, and only then, meet the wild friend with an open hand. Be ready to run, though, or defend.
Not all that seem friendly are friendly! Lighted areas areas are I mean yeah, your examples show more depth, but if someone in my household thanked me for cleaning the bathroom, I'm not going to respond "I'm glad you appreciate my time keeping the space clean, I do it to make you happy.
I feel the same. Stop getting all butt hurt about it; there's simply no need for it. Take it for how the person means it.